When children act stubborn in the middle of a shopping, at a party, or at home, it can be extremely annoying. But parents can help children learn anger management and edify them how to react without just acting on whim.
Coaching self-discipline is one of the most important things that parents can do for their children because these skills decides success later in life.
Helping Children Learn Self management
By learning Self management, children can make correct decisions and react to tense circumstances in ways that can give way to affirmative results.
For example, if your child demands a packet of chips just before lunch and you deny that, your child may weep, beg, or even yells hoping that you will succumb to the demand. But with self management, your child will comprehend that with such reaction he is reducing his chances to meet up his demands and that it’s better to eat lunch at lunch time..
Here are a few ideas on how to help children learn to control and manage their behaviour:
Children till age of 2 get annoyed by the variations between what they desire and what they get and they often show reactions by with grumpiness. We should avoid these tantrums by diverting their attention with toys or activities.
For children aged around two years, undertake a short timeout in a chosen area — like in bedroom or in veranda — to show the results for tantrums and train them that it’s much better to take time off than displaying tantrums.
For Pre Schoolers
We can maintain using time offs, but instead of fixing exact time limit we can end time off once the child calms down. It helps children improvise their sense of Self management. We should also encourage children for not losing self-control in provoking circumstances.
For Big Kids
As school going children are able to understand the consequences of their good or bad deeds it might help the child to visualize a stop sign or a break that must be followed and reflect on the scene prior to reacting. We can motivate children to walk away from a provoking scene for a few minutes to settle down as a replacement for of having an outbreak. We should admire children when they do cool off as then they’re more likely to follow this technique again.
When Children exhibit tantrums
During outbursts of child who is displaying bad behaviour as an adult we should remain calm ,composed and firm on our stand not giving even a slightest chance to child to think that his tantrums are effecting in anyways and it will also seed in the mind of child that exhibiting such behaviour is neither acceptable nor effective an
We can also discuss with our child mentor’s about general behaviour expectations and techniques of conflict resolutions they are using in the class and similar ones can also be followed at home.
We as adult in the family can also become a good role model by exhibiting self control in annoying and frustrating situations, like if we are in annoying situation we can converse with our children why are we upset and what can be probable solutions to the situation.
For example if we have to make a call our phone or tab is not working then instead of throwing or banging them we can discuss with our children about alternate solution like asking them about spare phone kept at home or using another system can teach them that to have good emotional control, cool composure and problem solving are the ways to resolve frustrating situation smoothly.